So Lonely

We live in a world where it is easier than ever to speak to people anywhere in the world and keep in contact with our friends and family, however, loneliness is a growing issue across society. It doesn’t matter how many people you know and even if you are a social butterfly, real connections can be difficult and leave you feeling lonely. Through the many periods of being locked down, you might have been left isolated or feeling daunted at the thought of having to interact with people again. Here are some tips that may be helpful if that is how you are feeling. As with any suggestions, different things will work for different people at different times so only do what you feel comfortable with and try not to put too much pressure on yourself, especially if something isn’t working for you.

Slow Down

If you’ve been feeling lonely, it can make it even more nerve wracking to think about getting out and meeting new people, but there is no rush so take your time. You can try to get back into it by trying an online activity where you get involved but don’t have to interact with anyone in person. By taking things slowly, you can build up to being more interactive over time and take things at your own pace. You don’t have to go all in so try and be easy on yourself.

Support Groups

There are lots of different types of peer support available which can give you the support you need to try and get past the feelings of loneliness. Support groups let people use their own experiences to help and support each other. A great example is Andy’s Man Club, who have done a great job in helping men open up about their experience. There are some links below to some other good places to start.


If your loneliness is due to a lack of social contact, why not try and get out and meet more or different people. You could try joining a class or group for one of your hobbies or interests or you could try volunteering. This could also help with your mental health as it is a good way of giving something back.

Open Up

If you know a lot of people, the problem could be that you don’t feel close to them or that they give you the care and attention that you need. In this case, try to open up about how you feel to friends and family. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that, try talking to a therapist or a support group.


They say that comparison is the thief of joy, but it is difficult to stop comparing yourself to others. We all do it but it is worth being aware of the fact that things are not always what they seem from the outside. Everyone is willing to share the highlights, but this is often to mask how they are really feeling. If you feel like social media is negatively impacting your mental wellbeing, take a break for a while or remove any accounts that don’t have a positive effect on you.

Look After Yourself

Feeling lonely can have an impact on your general wellbeing which can make it hard to do the things that help you feel better. Try to make sure that you are your number one priority and that you are looking after yourself. Try to get enough sleep as sleep can have a massive impact on how you feel. Think about what you are eating as how you fuel your body can affect your mood and energy levels. Try to get some exercise as this can be helpful for both your mental well being and can also improve your self-esteem. Spend some time outside as spending time in green space getting some fresh air can help you feel better and where you can avoid alcohol and drugs as they are often a mask for underlying problems.

If any of this has helped, please feel free to share with your friends as loneliness can affect us all and is a growing problem in modern society.

Useful Links:
Andy’s Man Club

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